Following on from the San San Kudo ceremony we moved on to our vows and our ring exchange.
How do I put in to words all that you mean to me?
You are my comfort and support, through the best and the worst times. You understand and encourage me to fully by myself, even in the times that I find this difficult to do. Steadfast in your unselfishness, with a sense of fun and a joy in life that brings brightness to the longest most boring day.
Today is the day that I promise to always be there for us. To stand up for our best interests, to make you laugh and make all things easier together. Today I commit to making this life together the best that it can be, because today we become family. I love you.
Lila, trying to find words to tell you how I feel seems futile, because I know there aren’t words strong enough. I also know that this is the happiest moment of my life. I love you more than I can possibly put in to words, with all that I am. I’m so glad to call you my wife & so happy to spend the rest of my life at your side. I love you, and I always will.
The ring exchange
This is the point in the ceremony when I usually talk about the wedding bands being a perfect circle, having no beginning and no end. But we all know that these rings do have a beginning. Rock is dug up from the earth. Metal is liquefied in a furnace at a thousand degrees. Hot metal is poured into a mold, cooled, and then painstakingly polished. Something beautiful is made from raw elements.
Love is like that. It’s hot, dirty work. It comes from humble beginnings, made by imperfect beings. It’s the process of making something beautiful where there was once nothing at all.
With that in mind, may I have the rings?
We had the kids look after the rings on necklaces that we got for them.
Then we each alternated with the ring exchange vows
Request – With this ring I ask for your fidelity and trust, your equality and partnership, your ears and your mouth, your steadfastness and your chaos, your passion and your comfort and most of all I ask that you keep me til death do us part.
Response – I accept this ring and promise to be faithful and trusting, to reach up to be your equal and lift you up to be my partner, to listen and to say, to be constant and ever-changing, to your be lover and a soft place for you to rest and above all to keep you forever.
And with the pronouncement from the celebrant our wedding was done, and we did what I had been dying to do the whole time I had been standing on the stage, we kissed.